During this week, we began our class with some classic trust falls. If you have some friends around, try doing some of these activities at home.
To perform a trust fall, one player lets himself fall backwards and is caught by another player. Or, one player is in the middle of a circle and falls in one direction and is caught by the others in the circle. They push that player back in a new direction, like a spinning top or pendulum.
Even if you cannot do this activity with a group of trusted friends, envision yourself doing it.
What does/would it feel like to be catching another person? Are you afraid that you might drop them? Do you trust yourself? What does it feel like to be the person falling? Is it hard to trust another person to catch you? Why or why not?
WALK BY FAITH
In 2 Corinthians 5:7 God challenges us to walk by faith, not by sight. Imagine yourself as a blind person. Take a few steps with your eyes closed. It feels unnatural. You may get disoriented. Yet, this is what we are instructed to do – walk forward without knowing where we are going.
Walking by faith requires that we TRUST God with our destination. We may not "see" the results in advance, but even so, we step forward in obedience to God's leading our lives. To walk without sight is uncomfortable, yet the more we do it, the more natural it feels. When we keep our eyes set on Jesus, we can trust that He will guide our steps.
GOD IS TRUSTWORTHY
By His nature, God is trustworthy. In His Passion Free, Dr. Dave Park outlines the top 10 qualities that make God trustworthy.
God's #1 quality is that… He doesn't wait until you get your act together. He loves you if you have pimples, if you're overweight, if you're skinny, if you think you're smart, if you think you're dumb, if you brush your teeth, if you have no teeth or if you kick your dog (don't kick the dog!). He loves you even when you sink, loved you while you were still sinning and loved you when you didn't even know He loved you. His love is pure. His love is perfect. It never fails, never goes away and isn't conditional. He gives His love freely, doesn't hold back, pours it on and keeps it coming. God is love!
You can download the rest of God's Top 10 Qualities here.
In the same workbook, Dr. Dave Park gives a list of 20 statements containing Scripture that further remind us of God's trustworthy nature. Because God is trustworthy, that we can have success in recovery. You can download the 20 Cans of Success here.
Some examples from the 20 Cans of Success…
Why should I say I can't when the Bible says… "I can do all things through Him who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13
Why should I doubt or lack faith knowing that… "God has allotted to each a measure of faith." Romans 12:3
Why should I worry when I can…"cast all of my anxiety on Christ because He cares for me." 1 Peter 5:7
Why should I ever feel alone when Jesus said… "I am with you always even in the end of the age." Matthew 28:20
In this song, Never Let Go, Matt Redman talks about trusting God in the storms of our lives.
What statements from the 20 Cans of Success bring you comfort? Why?
Think back to a time that God held on to you. How did he prove himself trustworthy in that circumstance?
FORMING NEW HABITS
We all have bad habits in our lives. Habits are simply recurring patterns of behavior. Bad habits recur in our lives, often from a lack of trust in God.
These habits do not form overnight. It takes time to develop them. The habits of someone with an eating disorder are physical and mental in nature. The physical habits of an eating disorder can include bingeing, purging, overexercise, or restricting. The mind of someone with an eating disorder may display thoughts of worry, doubt, fear, shame, guilt, or control.
In Ephesians 4:22-24, we are told to put off the old self. Along with putting off the old self, we must remove our old habits of mind and physical self. In addition, the same Scripture says that as we put off the old self, we are to put on a new self. Putting on a new self requires us to put on new habits.
God is trustworthy. When we step out in faith to form new habits, God will be by our side. He can give us the power to change when we trust in Him to do so.
Consider these practical steps to help you put on new habits…
1. Journal Daily
Journaling focuses your mind on God.
2. Focus on 1 Area of Change
When we try to change too much at one time, we are easily overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed encourages us to give up completely on our pursuits towards recovery. When you feel comfortable changing one thing, then it is time to move on to another area.
3. Find an Accountability Partner
Confide in someone that will encourage and support you on your journey. As they support you, this person must have the ability to honestly let you know when you are sliding back into old habits.
4. Create Visual Reminders
Stick post-it note reminders in your home, car, or workplace. Visual reminders can be found in the form of notes, but may also include clothing, jewelry or decorations in your home. For instance, light a candle to remind you to pray for peace. Wear a shirt that reminds you of your worth.
5. Make a List of Benefits to Change
Motivate yourself with positive things, not negative.
6. Plan Ahead for Difficult Circumstances/Events
If a regular activity causes you to fall into bad habits, plan ahead to either change or avoid that activity. If you know that being alone causes anxiety for you, set up a coffee date with a friend instead.
7. Reward Yourself
Don't be afraid to reward yourself when you feel that your journey is going well. Take your self shopping for a new shirt, get a massage or manicure, or take a bubble bath.
8. Cut Yourself Slack When Things Get Hard
We all will fall at some point. We live in a broken world and we are imperfect people. When you fall, get back up again. When a child is learning to walk, he will fall often, but gets right back up and keeps on trying.
9. Up Obstacles to Avoid Old Habit
Do whatever you need to do to make it hard to continue in your bad habits.